Should I advise you?

When people ask me for advice these days, I don't give. My big belief is, people already know what they want to do. The extra crowd-sourcing opinion is that it would not be as if. I have many examples I can cite to back it up.

The other reason I don't give advice is that I hate when people don't take it. You've stressed me with your issue, and you ended up doing something else. Now, on the flip side, if they take my advice and it goes wrong, I don't want to be blamed. So you see how difficult it is.

All in all, it's a lose-lose game to me; that's why I decided to stop playing.

The sun we thought we lost came out as we approached Ify's. I decided to talk extra 10-15 minutes to enjoy the sun, as this is the first one I'm seeing in 3 days. Mommy reluctantly agreed to come with. We walked, yapped, and took in fridge light sun.

I was telling her of someone who told me he'd be moving back to Nigeria, and I listened. She asked why I didn't advise against it. I told her what I told you in the first paragraph of this note, and she said in Igbo, "it's not about them taking the advice or not. Saying your thoughts might present them with a different perspective they didn't think of. Or they can go and do some checks and balances."

And you know what? Fair enough. Truly, what the elders see sitting down, the young cannot see standing up.

It's not about me. It's about providing the person more information - maybe from my experience or someone else's that I know of - to come to a decision. It's about giving my honest 2 cents because God knows after this December, that's all I have to give. If they decide to go with their initial thought, fine. If they go an entirely different routine, that's also fine. At least they had all the information and came to a decision they think would work for that time.

Listening to Little Simz's album. In the word's of a stray Youtube comment, used to be a fan, but after hearing this masterpiece I'm a whole air-conditioner now!